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Post by Deleted User 68 » Wed Sep 13, 2017 4:37 pm

A lot of people use Grindr to hook up but do you think you can meet a partner on Grindr? Something more long term?

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by skinny_bones4 » Wed Sep 13, 2017 4:39 pm

I certainly have tried. I've met many great guys in there. But, a lot of people only want one thing on there.

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Post by Deleted User 68 » Wed Sep 13, 2017 4:42 pm

skinny_bones4 wrote:
Wed Sep 13, 2017 4:39 pm
I certainly have tried. I've met many great guys in there. But, a lot of people only want one thing on there.
That's true. it all depends on how you use it. I found my partner on Grindr and next May its gonna be 4 years we have together.

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by Axle » Wed Sep 13, 2017 4:51 pm

Is it possible? Yes. I met my partner on POF... of course we're talking about Grindr. I think the problem with apps like grindr is that most people are using it to hookup and that a lot of teens growing up on social media are learning that apps like grindr is the way to meet people and it's kind of sad because the instant gratification of being able browse through people and making judgements based solely on looks alone really just means more people will be unhappy. Not saying someone has to date someone they don't find attractive or even make compromise, it is simply that a lot of people on apps like grindr have that "fomo" in hopes of looking for the guy who is more attractive. I think a lot of guys also who are looking for a partner on grindr often are suspicious of someone else's motives, "is this guy really looking to date?"

I think grindr can lead to dates but the prospects aren't as good as other options, at least that's been the case in my experience.

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by eastofeden » Tue Sep 19, 2017 11:34 am

I have never even seen the Grindr site but I can tell you that even at my age I can easily meet guys in my day to day life if I wanted to. I am kinda amused sometimes....I am not looking for sex or anything else as I am happily married ..I kinda expected that at a certain age people would stop with the cruising and advances...but that is not the case.

I am not so much about appearance as I am about chemistry. Even when I was younger...I didn't care if you were 18 or 80...I would talk to you if we had chemistry...any kind of chemistry...not just romantic or sexual. I talk to people I don't know rather easily ...I am not shy...so basically what I am saying if I wanted to meet someone it would be organic and natural...at the store...or the gas station...or an antique show...or just at work talking to customers. Before I was with my husband..I met all the guys I knew this way..it was easy and fun. I would not like doing it online though....definitely not my thing. I like to look in someone's eyes when I talk to them and I like body language and nuance....

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Post by Deleted User 68 » Wed Sep 20, 2017 2:39 pm

@eastofeden That is the best way to meet someone, better chance that way than online.

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by Axle » Fri Sep 22, 2017 9:37 am

Nelson wrote:
Wed Sep 20, 2017 2:39 pm
@eastofeden That is the best way to meet someone, better chance that way than online.
It's probably the more natural way but with technology the natural way to meet someone is quickly becoming quite foreign to some people. I mean I can't really think of a time where I haven't used a dating app of some sort...

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Post by Deleted User 68 » Fri Sep 22, 2017 4:56 pm

Axle wrote:
Fri Sep 22, 2017 9:37 am
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Wed Sep 20, 2017 2:39 pm
@eastofeden That is the best way to meet someone, better chance that way than online.
It's probably the more natural way but with technology the natural way to meet someone is quickly becoming quite foreign to some people. I mean I can't really think of a time where I haven't used a dating app of some sort...
I had no luck the traditional way, i dont go out much, and I dont like clubs. When I found Grindr it changed. I only went out on a date with one guy and he turned out to be my partner today. I consider myself lucky. But Grindr was new to me.

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by LJay » Fri Sep 22, 2017 8:40 pm

OK, I'll bite. Have never been to the Grindr site. So, if I were curious how would you prepare me? Taking some kind of picture would be traumatic enough, but just how does it really work?

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by Axle » Fri Sep 22, 2017 9:27 pm

LJay wrote:OK, I'll bite. Have never been to the Grindr site. So, if I were curious how would you prepare me? Taking some kind of picture would be traumatic enough, but just how does it really work?
In a lot of way, if you ask me it brings out a lot of the bad things in men. I could compare Grindr to a porn site where you go through a gallery of men pick the one you think is cute and then get to talk to them and maybe get some nude pics... and if you’re really lucky get a hookup. Generally speaking anything more than that is very rare but is possible to find dates and friends but just don’t expect it.

If you have a smartphone go ahead and download the app and see what you’re think and if you use it let me know what you think.


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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by LJay » Sat Sep 23, 2017 1:18 am

I am such a chickenshit about these things.

Is POF any better?

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Post by Deleted User 68 » Sat Sep 23, 2017 8:39 am

LJay wrote:
Sat Sep 23, 2017 1:18 am
I am such a chickenshit about these things.

Is POF any better?
POF? Whats that? :P

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by Axle » Sun Sep 24, 2017 10:50 am

@Nelson POF is Plenty of Fish, it's another dating app... It does seem to have guys who are looking to date more so than other apps. Isn't quite as popular but I have had much better luck with it than anything else.

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Post by Deleted User 68 » Mon Sep 25, 2017 7:33 am

Axle wrote:
Sun Sep 24, 2017 10:50 am
@Nelson POF is Plenty of Fish, it's another dating app... It does seem to have guys who are looking to date more so than other apps. Isn't quite as popular but I have had much better luck with it than anything else.
Awesome, good to know.

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Re: Thoughts on Grindr

Post by Axle » Mon Sep 25, 2017 8:37 am

LJay wrote:
Sat Sep 23, 2017 1:18 am
I am such a chickenshit about these things.
@LJay What is there to worry about?

I guess me having dealt with these dating apps and having been very insecure about myself in the past, which frankly did me no good, I just slowly got over a lot of it. I guess what I mean is , feeling good enough about yourself and what you are but not so egotistical and having a glass image of yourself... To put it more plainly, realize that you're special in the fact that you're unique but being so doesn't make you hot shit. Finally learning that substance is much more valuable than looks alone. Of course, I might have got that all wrong but I do think us gay guys are often too worried about our appearance...hair, clothes, body and so on.

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